My auntie was diagnosed with cancer a month or so back she had an operation but im kind of scared because my best friend’s mother died of cancer last year and then my other friend’s father died of cancer last year and the same friend’s mother died of cancer when she was 7 and i don’t want someone else to go. The doctors said that all the cancer is gone they think. But i still have this at the back of my mind. Is this normal?
your feelings are very normal,i am not trying to be cruel but enjoy every moment you can with your auntie, i am a three time cancer survivor and i try to enjoy every moment with my family and friends .
don’t smother but take time to listen but don’t bug her about it ,they have counseling for family members of cancer survivors etc.
I know it is hard for you and it is obvious that you love your aunt very much. my oldest son was 2 weeks old the second time i was diagnosed and 8 the 3rd time and it was very hard on him. he is now 18. hang in there because maybe just maybe te doctors did get it all. good luck and hang in there. and remember let your auntie know just how much you love her. talk to some one even if it is a friend it helps
Go to a specialist Cancer charity like The McMillan Trust.
Superb.
Its normal to have the thoughts that you are having..If your Aunts doctor said that all the cancer is gone, you should believe him, and celebrate with your Aunt.
yes, it’s normal for you to feel anxious and scared that the same thing will happen again, but each case is different and there are more and more people surviving cancer now due to medical advances.Try and live everyday in the present and take each day as it comes.Don’t live in fear .If the doctors say that all the cancer is gone then that is really positive.
of course it is try not to wory chick my mum past away from cancer too but my aunt is a live and she was told she had cervical cancer and now she is fit and healthy x x x come on she is still here is she not x x
it is normal because of all the cancer people that have passed around you. just tell her to keep up her appts. and it will be fine.
20 May 2009
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Yes, this is very normal to worry about what the future may hold for your beloved Aunt, especially with so many people around you unfortunately passing away of Cancer. Talking about it with close friends helps or even with your Aunt, she will be your best point of guidance, strength and honesty, if you can build up the courage to ask her about it. She may also need someone to talk to about it, if you are strong enough to hear it. MInd you, this may not be easy to hear, but you will be helping her and I know you want to show her you care so much. She probably doesn’t have many people who will listen to "her side" of the Cancer, and in turn, this will help you with your own demons and doubts. Your emotions will be erratic from day to day, so don’t beat yourself up and down time (total silence with your fav.tunes in back ground) will give you time to reflect and think. We sadly don’t have the choice of when "a loved one "goes", " to quote you, but we do have the choice to make the best of life while we are here. If you cannot talk to your Aunt at this point, close family and true friends will be there for you, if not, go to Cancer-Care.Org, they have a variety of support groups for your concerns and heartache. May God Bless your Aunt with Life and you with strength to be there for her. I do understand…………….
20 May 2009 at 1:41 am